How can one love with all one's heart and soul that
one loses oneself?
How can one loves another until one is willing to forgo ones
self worth and feeling to put the other ahead all the time?
how can one disregard one's feeling and accept all
the hurt in the name of love?
Is this love?
Is it devotion?
or
Is it deep rooted fear?
Kak Mah told me a story...
a story that we all knew before...
but never in detail...
about a woman who loves her better half with
all her heart that she is willing to disregard her
own womanly feeling, her own rights to be loved
as much in return for the man she loves.
She practically creates a perfect homes where conflict is minimal
and everything runs smoothly for him
at the expense of her own feelings.
She tries to avoid conflict....
If the man complains of a minor problem, she will
quickly says that she will handle it promptly..
An example of an issue -
if she is going for a course or meeting...her husband would
complain that nobody will send the children to school...
and she will quickly agree to send the children first before she
goes for the meeting etc.
The man on the other hand will accept everything she gives
without bothering to even return the sacrifices...
he would never offer to do anything to help ease
her burden...
He would never even think about how she feels sacrificing
herself for him...
He is a taker....but never ever a giver...
Selfish love....
The only thing she ever gets from him
is a declaration of love on a piece of paper that she
displays to the whole world to see...
she is even willing to sacrifice a promotion offered to
her because this man she loves said that
it would inconvenient him to send
the children to school in the morning.
But, on a serious note, doesn't loving someone means
you are not willing to subject the one you love
to all the hardship and pain?
That you will PUT the one you love first rather
than taking all that she's giving?
There is a give and take in a loving relationship...
whatever the excuse is...
his past...her past....etc..
but I have always believe that when we love someone...
we will not be willing to see the one we love suffer?
I guess one day she might look back and realise that
she is just a shadow....
to this man....
a doormat that he can push anywhere he wants...
and that she has not done anything significant for herself..
that she has not even once put herself first....
and that he might get tired of someone like that....
But who am i to say anything right?
Maybe she is taught to do that when she was young...
Maybe her religion taught her that....
we'll never know...
Do we become blind when we are in love?
or Do we choose to be blind when we are in love?
It's our choice i guess...
Love definitely is not blind...
one loses oneself?
How can one loves another until one is willing to forgo ones
self worth and feeling to put the other ahead all the time?
how can one disregard one's feeling and accept all
the hurt in the name of love?
Is this love?
Is it devotion?
or
Is it deep rooted fear?
Kak Mah told me a story...
a story that we all knew before...
but never in detail...
about a woman who loves her better half with
all her heart that she is willing to disregard her
own womanly feeling, her own rights to be loved
as much in return for the man she loves.
She practically creates a perfect homes where conflict is minimal
and everything runs smoothly for him
at the expense of her own feelings.
She tries to avoid conflict....
If the man complains of a minor problem, she will
quickly says that she will handle it promptly..
An example of an issue -
if she is going for a course or meeting...her husband would
complain that nobody will send the children to school...
and she will quickly agree to send the children first before she
goes for the meeting etc.
The man on the other hand will accept everything she gives
without bothering to even return the sacrifices...
he would never offer to do anything to help ease
her burden...
He would never even think about how she feels sacrificing
herself for him...
He is a taker....but never ever a giver...
Selfish love....
The only thing she ever gets from him
is a declaration of love on a piece of paper that she
displays to the whole world to see...
she is even willing to sacrifice a promotion offered to
her because this man she loves said that
it would inconvenient him to send
the children to school in the morning.
But, on a serious note, doesn't loving someone means
you are not willing to subject the one you love
to all the hardship and pain?
That you will PUT the one you love first rather
than taking all that she's giving?
There is a give and take in a loving relationship...
whatever the excuse is...
his past...her past....etc..
but I have always believe that when we love someone...
we will not be willing to see the one we love suffer?
I guess one day she might look back and realise that
she is just a shadow....
to this man....
a doormat that he can push anywhere he wants...
and that she has not done anything significant for herself..
that she has not even once put herself first....
and that he might get tired of someone like that....
But who am i to say anything right?
Maybe she is taught to do that when she was young...
Maybe her religion taught her that....
we'll never know...
Do we become blind when we are in love?
or Do we choose to be blind when we are in love?
It's our choice i guess...
Love definitely is not blind...
